5 Rules to Writing a Wedding Speech

 

Writing a wedding speech is not difficult if you follow some simple rules. These rules which are similar in approach to how an actor might go about preparing for a role, are a simple guide to making the marriage speech appear personal, heartfelt and sincere.  

 

Rule 1. A few weeks before the reception 'brainstorm' and write down a few topics, subjects or stories that you want to cover.

 

Rule 2. With this list in front of you, stand in a room by yourself and imagine you are at the reception, with the microphone in your hand (you could even just use a pen if you like.) Start talking, and see what happens. A good start is : "Thankyou. It is a great felling for me to be here giving this speech because..."

 

Rule 3. After you have done this a few times, a pattern should develop. Write down the pattern, and work with it to establish a beginning, middle and an end. The opening sets the tone; the middle is the substance, while the conclusion ties everything together.

 

Rule 4. Stick with the pattern as an outline. Edit it into key words, top headings or phrases that you can easily recall. Type these into a word procesor and then print them out onto an A4 piece of paper (no palm-size cards) to guide you.

 

Rule 5. Practise... rehearse... and practise... - until it sounds spontaneous !

 

There is no need to stress over your wedding speech. It is actually easier than other forms of public speaking, as people will expect you to be nervous. Keep your wedding speech brief !  It is better to leave them wanting more than dragging on loosing there attention.

 

 

 

Tips to remember when writing a wedding speech

  • Keep the information personal.
  • Stay sober and avoid the temptation of a few drinks to 'steady the nerves'.
  • Make 2 copies of your speech and give a spare copy to a guest just in case you leave it somewhere else.
  • Take a moment before the speeches start to prepare and collect your thoughts away from the noise of the reception - possibly in the foyer or restroom.
  • Be humble (as opposed to brash) and avoid using the opportunity to take a cheap shot at a guest.
  • Flattery works best.
  •  Be careful of humour - no dirty stores (which are different to 'awkward moments').

  • Only speak on subjects you know and in a style you are comfortable with.

 

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